Jumat, 26 September 2014

Helpful Tips For Effective Parenting

By Marlyn Parker


Being a parent is always a mixture of joys and challenges, and all parents have days when they wish their children came with an owner's manual. Without further ado, let's examine some parenting tactics that can prove useful in your day to day experiences as a parent. For decades experts have gone back and forth in regard to which type of parenting skill works the best and it seems the only place they can find common ground is to make sure that you have at least some interaction with your children.

As we all know, it is more stressful today than it has been in decades. This may be when your child is being particularly difficult, or maybe repeating a certain behavior you've told him countless times not to engage in. You might need to take a timeout, count to 10, and return to the situation with a different frame of mind.

Each child has the possibility and probability of reaching great heights in life, but this is stymied when parents ignore their kids or neglect them altogether. It is important to also realize that life can become very busy, so you need to find time and schedule it in for your kids or you will miss them as they grow up. A parent that shows up and does stuff with their kids, even if they don't know what they are doing, is someone that cares and wants their children to succeed.

All parents have to enforce certain rules and restrictions on their kids' behavior. Different rules have different purposes -some are necessary for the kids' physical well being, such as "Don't run into the street." What not all parents realize is that kids secretly crave and require certain limitations, as it helps them feel grounded. While children may complain when you tell them they can't watch a certain movie or they can't eat cookies before dinner, you have to keep in mind that it's your responsibility to make certain decisions on their behalf for now. You don't have to be overly strict about these things -you can give them alternatives as long as they stay within certain restrictions. You might give them a choice between doing the dishes or taking out the garbage, for example; not a great choice, but it serves to remind them they have certain responsibilities while still giving them an alternative.

Rather than yelling at him to stop doing that, you could frame it in such a way that he has choices, such as playing with a toy or eating a snack. This way, you're taking control of the situation by making it clear he has to change his behavior, but you're also giving him some alternatives to choose between. While there's no simple rule to govern all situations you face as a parent, it's good to have some guiding principles. Whatever has happened in the past is beyond changing, so you can only look towards the future. It can be useful to study various theories about parenting, but finally you have to make up your own mind about what's best.




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